Find Your Inner Glow Podcast

PART 2: Addressing Childhood Wounds in Business: Unravelling Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome, and People-Pleasing to Unlock Your True Potential.

September 01, 2024 Kirsty Harris

Can childhood trauma really impact your career? Imagine excelling in your profession yet feeling unfulfilled and riddled with self-doubt. In our latest episode, we unpack how early experiences of excessive criticism, abuse, and unrealistic parental expectations erode self-esteem and hinder professional growth. We share practical strategies for recognizing and addressing these deep-seated issues, offering a pathway for healing and transformation in your business life.

Feeling anxious or guilty about success? You're not alone. Discover how sibling rivalry, parental expectations, and emotional neglect can turn the joy of success into a burden. We discuss emotional barriers like guilt, jealousy, and fear of change that can lead to self-sabotage. Through personal stories and expert insights, we explore how to break free from these psychological constraints and unlock your full potential.

Does your relationship with money hold you back? We delve into the intricate ties between financial trauma, self-worth, and business success. Learn how a negative money mindset, often shaped by childhood experiences of financial instability, can limit your visibility and growth. We provide actionable advice on cultivating a healthier relationship with money, setting boundaries, and prioritizing inner child healing. Tune in for essential tools to transform both your personal and professional life.

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Speaker 1:

Hello and welcome back. We are doing part two today about how your inner child can show up in your workplace environment, whether that's your business, whether that is your job. We've got a couple more that we're going to talk about today. Last week I absolutely rinsed through so much, but I feel like there was just so much I really wanted to talk about on this topic, about why it's also relevant and why this area of you, who you are, needs attention when it comes to your business. So I'm going to jump straight in.

Speaker 1:

So something that can really get in the way of you and your business is low self-esteem. So, yeah, you know, if you lack your self-worth, if you lack confidence, if you lack self-esteem, then guess what it's going to show up in your business or in your career as you being hesitant to make big moves. You may be second guessing decisions. You may need to ask for 10 different people for validation before you're like, oh, fuck, yeah, like that's what I need to do, not actually listening to what you want to do. You may be kind of just avoiding those bigger goals and thinking, oh, that's not for me whoever told you that to do. You may be kind of just avoiding those bigger goals and thinking, oh, that's not for me. Whoever told you that, whoever told you it wasn't for you, was a fucking liar, and guess what? It's probably yourself. So you're a liar, babe, you're a liar. Sorry, that's not very nice, but literally, though, if I used to look at this woman's life and I used to romanticize about it and I used to be like that's not for me, but why? And then I was like Christy, why like, why are you? Why are you telling yourself no, that isn't for you? It's obviously because when I you know the inner child stuff low self-esteem, low self-worth why would that ever happen for me? It was showing up in my business or showing about up in my dreams. It was showing up in how I live my life so many, so many ways.

Speaker 1:

So, with this low self-esteem often originates from your childhood. Obviously that's what we're talking about. But you know we can have experiences that leave lasting impressions on us, leading to a persistent sense of inadequacy, unworthiness, self-doubt. Okay, as if you've listened to the last episode, you're going to hear me repeat multiple things, because they all interlink right. This is why I talked about in the last episode, about how it's really important to go to the root of a problem, because if you solve the root, you solve multiple issues. Don't go to a single coach for a single issue is what I'm trying to tell you, because I'm trying to save you money and I'm trying to be fucking real with you about the most effective way of healing your shit, okay, so again.

Speaker 1:

So again, we are talking about low self-esteem. We are going back to excessive criticism. Oh my God. So your parents give you negative messages all the fucking time. You know this means that you might feel flawed or incapable, and what I want to say to you as well is that as an adult, you will have a fully logical brain and you will go oh, I understand why she behaved that way or why he did that, but, as like a five-year-old, if you're just having negative messages all the fucking time, you're just going to internalize it. Okay, and even as a child, it will really erode your confidence and will create feelings of low self-worth. Like children have the ability to feel that, and what happens is when we feel it gets stuck in our body because, guess what? We do not know how to express that as a child. We haven't got our full frontal lobe developed, so we don't know how to fully express that.

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Obviously, abuse is something that will come up and damage sense of self. It, you know, and often can lead to shame, guilt, feeling powerless all of this type of stuff and also it can lead us into feeling undeserving of love, respect and happiness, which will show up in our relationships, in the people that we make friends with at work, in the businesses that we work for, in the businesses that we create. So present parental rejection or abandonment. We talked about abandonment last time and you can have physical abandonment, where somebody just didn't go, like somebody just went away. Or you could have emotional abandonment, where somebody just didn't go like somebody just went away. Or you could have emotional abandonment even though the parent is there, they're not able to communicate any emotion with you and this can lead to chronic feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

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Okay, unrealistic expectations overemphasis on achievements. Your child child's worth, or you as a child, your worth is solely attached to your achievements. So this could be like why you constantly feel like you're not good enough in your business or in your job because you need the next qualification. You need to have another bit of paper that tells you you're good. You may have constantly been chasing achievements and doing the best that you could at school and often feeling like it was never good enough. Okay, and this is why you may have high expectations and this will make you feel like you're a failure when you don't reach them. Or if you don't reach them, or if you do and you don't get the validation, then this can reinforce that low self-esteem and what you will find is that, like I often find, like people who are like this are maximizers, like they will often go through life and they will try and get the best of something, so they will go to a level and be and be like okay, that's fine, I need the next thing. I need the next thing. I need the next thing when we want to be more in that person who is like the satisfied person, we reach a level and we're comfortable and we accept ourselves for who we are and the achievements that we have, and we don't constantly need something else to validate us. We want to move from maximizing into being a more satisfied person, and we see this a lot in jobs. We see this a lot in relationships. Can I get the best? I can absolutely get that type of stuff, okay.

Speaker 1:

So another thing as well, is bullying. Um, I read something earlier which was really fucking harsh but really true. But sometimes your parent could be your first bully and like you're like, wow, if that's hitting you right now, then I'm sorry, but it can be true. And I just really want to just highlight this because when you are bullied or you're rejected, it can massively impact your self-esteem. You know, if you were teased, excluded, maybe even targeted in your family, home or even by your peers, then this can lead to negative things being said about you and just like a diminished self-worth. Like we do not have the emotional resilience of a child to clap back and be like fuck you, janet, fuck you, fuck you and your nasty ass hair. Like we, we just we haven't got that in us. You know, but me, as a feisty 32 year old woman, i'ma tell janet about herself. Okay, I'm a fucking teller, but as a five-year-old I'm probably just going to internalize what Janet says is truth.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so, yes, um, you know, we may have inconsistent or unpredictable parenting. This shows up and this gives us low self-esteem. Um, I don't know why I'm singing about this. I guess I'm trying to like lighten the mood a bit, because this is fucking dark, isn't it? It's really dark and heavy, this like stuff that we're coming out and like I might be hitting multiple points for you being like fuck, yeah, that's me, that's me, that's me, that's me and if I am, please reach out for help and support, like you don't have to do this on your own. The reason why I'm here and I'm talking about it is because so many people have experienced this.

Speaker 1:

I wouldn't have a business if people all had a really good childhood, right, and even if you had a seemingly okay childhood, you can still have things within that that still live within you now. It doesn't mean that you had bad parents. It can just mean that your parents did their best and it wasn't good enough and that's fine, okay. So other ways that things can yeah, I often used to have like banter, like my like, with my mum, but I would often feel like it was shame and humiliation. So when I was upset about something, she would often like laugh at me, for example. That would create like shame and humiliation against me and I would just be really embarrassed for my emotions. And yeah, I also had traumatic events throughout my childhood as well, like so there was a death of my nan. You know there could be divorce. It could be a significant loss.

Speaker 1:

All of these things deeply affect your you as a child and your self-esteem, and also it can lead you to feelings of helplessness and diminished self-worth. And also you can push into a victim mentality as well as you grow up, because you feel like everything is just happening against you and not for you. And what I want to say about victim mentality is like it's not a bad thing. Everyone talks about victim mentality like it's a really fucking bad thing. No, it was a survival mechanism that you had to do in order for you to get to where you are now, in order for you to get to where you are now. It's a survival mechanism and we shouldn't be shamed for it, but we should be allowed and invited to step out of that into a more of an empowered state of mind, not victim mentality.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so next up on the list oh my God, the popo is here. Benefits of living on a main road. I should probably edit this out, but here we are, here we are. Anyway, we're talking about fear of success. Fear of success is the next one, because we know what happens if you're all goes wrong. What happens if you're all goes right.

Speaker 1:

You know success can trigger feelings of guilt or fear within us, like why am I worthy of having so much money? Why am I worthy of this business success? And you know a lot of this can be around jealousy as well. Were you jealous of your siblings? You know a lot of this can be around jealousy as well. Were you jealous of your siblings? Were siblings jealous of you? Like you may end up taking this and having that fear of success and subconsciously self-targeting. You may be procrastinating, avoiding publicity, avoiding making decisions, and that just keeps you stuck in your business where you are. It doesn't mean that you're not capable of success. It just means that you are getting in your own way.

Speaker 1:

So something I want to talk about here is that if you had multiple siblings or like you were compared a lot, like within your family group you're, you might feel like your own success will cause jealousy or resentment within your family. It may even feel like that in your industry, in your niche. Okay, because as grow up, our world expands. Because when you think about it, when we're a child, our world is our family. As we grow up, we expand our world. We have friends, we have associates, we have work colleagues, we have all of these different people in our lives, but we still act in the same behavior patterns. So you may internalize that the belief of standing out or saying something different or outshining other people will harm your relationships and that leads you to self-sabotage or to avoiding success.

Speaker 1:

Again, inconsistent praise and recognition. This can be like oh, if you got praise sometimes, not others, then you can be confused about the value of achievements and then you might create an anxiety about success because you're like well, is it good for me, is it not? I don't really know, I don't really feel valued when I get, when I gain, success. Um, you may also have parental jealousy. What did your, what are you doing in your life now that your mum wanted you to do? Or what did your dad want you to do? Are you living a life because of what you want to do or because your parents have kind of got you to live out their, their life that they really wanted? And then now that's created jealousy, like it is possible for your mum to be jealous of you, to be jealous of your success, to be jealous of the life that you have, you know, and then when you kind of realize, oh, this could be jealousy from my parent. It encourages you to be small. It encourages you to be very, very small and to take a step back because they're your parents and they're seen as that authority figure right.

Speaker 1:

You may have had emotional neglect, abandonment. This comes up again. You know the responsibility or burden you know if you were forced to take on adult responsibility too young, so parentification again you may feel this, with like success being an overwhelming burden. So you're going to avoid it. You're going to be. I don't want that, so you may avoid it.

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You may have negative associations with wealth and success. So if you have a family story where I have to work really hard to have money, or if you are rich, then you're corrupt, you're selfish, you isolate, you don't do anything good for the community. So then you have this association that being rich, being wealthy, being successful will make you a bad person. There will also be a fear of change. Okay, if you grew up in an environment and that's all that you know, imagine what it would be like to be successful and completely change the dynamic of that. The fear of change, the fear of being more wealthy, being more, being more successful. It can really, really be scary, whether that's a conscious or subconscious belief or not because if I say to you, do you want to be successful? You'd be like, yes, fuck, yes, but your brain might be like it doesn't feel safe.

Speaker 1:

To be success, okay, and to be successful so being, you know, if you've experienced any trauma, um, bullying, abuse, uh, any criticism about how you look, um, things like that. Any business that you are in, any job that you're, business that you are in, any job that you're in which you are going to progress in, requires you to be in the spotlight, requires you to put aside the fears of being exposed or judged, attacked. And you know, if you kind of want to, if you can't do that, if you haven't got the bandwidth, if you haven't got the emotional capacity to do it, if your nervous system has not got the space for you to do that, if you haven't got the bandwidth, if you haven't got the emotional capacity to do, if your nervous system has not got the space for you to do that, then to avoid success means to stay safe. Okay, and that's okay, that's all right. You know you may have also had a parent that often self sabotage and you and you role model this behavior, not because you consciously do, but you just learn. That's just the way that things are done. So, yeah, this is quite a heavy one when we're talking about the fear of success, because this is the type of inner child healing that people don't fucking talk about and we really need to talk about it, especially as business owners, as people in our lives, like fear of success is a real fucking thing, my god, I feel like I could do so many like podcasts just on each topic alone, but I'm trying to be brief. And what are we? Oh god, look at the freaking time, look at the time. Ah, I've got. I've got so many other things to talk about.

Speaker 1:

Right, anyway, let's move on to the over identification with business. So, again, a lack of self-identity outside of your business or your job can lead to an unhealthy attachment with business, success and a measure of personal worth. What does that fucking mean? That means that you will. Your self-worth is rooted in your achievements. We've talked about this a little bit, um, but it can result in you being a workaholic, being burnt out, really struggling with work-life balance, not engaging in a relationship, in a romantic relationship, struggling to keep friends long term. You know, over identification with business comes from a lot of the things that we've talked about in terms of over parent. Um, paraphrasing, we are talking about being criticized a lot. We're talking about unconditional love, where love was only conditional, and comparison to siblings, things like that. I'm not going to go too much into this because I feel like it's quite self-explanatory and it actually does really link into a lot of things that we've that we've talked about already. Oh oh, this is gonna be a little spicy one. We're going to our difficulty with trust.

Speaker 1:

Okay, who has trust issues hands up in the room, hands up in the room, trust issues stemming from childhood, from betrayal or inconsistency, and it can make it hard to trust others in business. I have, like this memory of I wrote in my diary so my nan was chronically ill and she was always in and out of hospital and one night I just kind of felt so emotional watching the ambulance take her into hospital yet again. It's like fucking three in the morning and what I did was I wrote down everything I felt in this brand new book I got it from I think it's called bookers or something like that. It was this beautiful bookshop and I bought this beautiful journal and I was so in love with it, so, so in love with it, okay, and I wrote down how I was feeling that night and I fell asleep in the waiting room and then my mum read the journal entry to everybody in the waiting room because my aunties and things were there, because my nan was really sick and I was just like like.

Speaker 1:

That memory has like massively impacted my ability to trust people, to trust relationships, to trust people in business, and often means that I have to feel like I have to be in total control because I can't trust people. So, like I said earlier, your parents are your entire world. They are your entire, your entire world. So, yeah, at that time that was like groundbreakingly fucking awful for me. But other ways that you know this can show up for you and how it's difficult to trust the betrayal by caregivers. So, like I explained in my story, it was betrayal so it could be broken.

Speaker 1:

Promises, lying, manipulation this can all lead to a deep-seated mistrust of others. Okay, and this can really extend to, like, business partner colleagues, clients. You know you may not trust them to be safe and that's how you end up being safest by being in total control. Again, we're talking about parent inconsistency. If your parents were unpredictable um other times they were there and loving and caring, and other times dismissive and absent. This can cause trust issues. So you're like, well, I don't fucking know, um like if you're in this or not, so witness in parent dishonesty or deception. Did did your mom have to lie about things to keep the peace? Did your dad have to lie about how many pints he had at the pub? This type of stuff. You're witnessing parent dishonesty and deception and that may have not felt good for you as a child. Again, we're talking about abandonment, whether that's physical or emotional.

Speaker 1:

Bullying, um manipulation or gaslighting. Okay, where you know your, your parents, especially if you had a narcissistic parent. Okay, and I'm talking about an actual fucking narcissist now, not just being like, ah, he was a narcissist in my last relationship. No, narcissism is absolutely fucking horrendous. Okay, and if you have a narcissistic parent, my god, the manipulation and gaslighting is unreal. Okay, and if you feel like you may have a narcissistic parent, I highly recommend doing some research into it, because when you start to realize that it is actually a way that that personality is formed and it's actually nothing personal or anything to do with you, it can really be fucking, yeah, really eye-opening and remove a lot of the blame you may have had.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, parental betrayal so did your parents treat on each other with their infidelity? Infidelity was there, you know. Financial deceit was there a gambling problem? God, there are so many things under this. Okay, how did your parents betray each other? Could be a really good question to ask yourself.

Speaker 1:

Again, we're talking about parentification. So, yeah, if you had to be the parent, the only person you can trust is yourself, and then that makes it really hard for you to lean on others. Then we're talking about a traumatic death of a loved one. For me it was my nan, and you know that can lead to feelings of abandonment. It's okay to feel abandonment and mistrust. Somebody I love always fucking leaves. That can be a story that you've told yourself, even if that's conscious or subconscious. So then this can just be manifesting in your business like your fear of losing control, your fear of letting, being let down by others and being it difficult to trust in partnerships and collaborations when people just fuck you over in the end, right? Um? So also exposure to financial instability.

Speaker 1:

We will talk about money mindset in a minute, but you know, growing up with financial instability, when money was a source of conflict, where there were trust issues related to finances, did your mum have to spend money on you but not tell your dad like, yeah, it may have been really struggled. Um, you may have felt like, you know, your parents were kind of cheating on each other with money, um, and then this could just really um sharpen your relationship. When you're doing business dealings, um, like, money mindset is a fucking huge one and perfect because we're going to talk about that right now. This leads in. It's like I planned this, oh my god.

Speaker 1:

So with money mindset, we can have quite a few things show up in our business if we grow up with, you know, issues with money. So, for example, growing up in poverty, there could be a scarcity mindset. So if you are always told there's never enough money, money is a limited resource, you may have had parents who hoarded money or really scared about spending money. Or every time they spent money it was like, oh my god, we can't afford this or we can't afford that. Um, there may be also like a fear of losing money. So, if there's any money trauma in your experience, so if there's any bankruptcy, if there's any like risky financial decisions that your parents made that didn't pay off. This can really show up for you and it can make you feel like money isn't safe. Money isn't safe to have and big chunks of money can leave.

Speaker 1:

If your parents had really strong financial struggles, so anxiety, stress or negative association with money, it was always a source of stress, conflict and shame in the household. You may grow up and have negative emotions with money, which, like if you're a business owner, that's an incredibly difficult place to be in because you need to make money. Like you need to have a positive relationship with money and it's actually totally okay to say I fucking love money, like that's absolutely fine. So again, it could be financial instability, like did your parents own businesses that were in, like you know, in state, that were unstable? Yeah, you may have a distrust of wealth because you know money can come and go very easily. Whatever views your parents have about money are likely to adopt.

Speaker 1:

So if there's guilt and shame around wealth, if a money is a measure of worth, the more money you have, the more success you are, the better financial status you are, the more you are, and also it can just be really linked to like how money is really hard and how you have to chronically overwork, get burnt out and just be in this never-ending pursuit of wealth to prove your worth. You may have a lack of financial independence, like you may have had parents who relied on one another. You may find that materialism is the way that parents show love instead of giving you emotions, they give you money. That could also be something you know. There could be financial trauma. So, for example, losing a home, witnessing a parent lose a job, facing extreme financial hardship, or even just like your parents, perceiving that, like your parents might have said to you or we never have any money, but there's always food on the table, there's always clothes on your back, there was. You know you always had money. You just maybe didn't have an overflow of money and you know parental guilt is a huge thing with this. So you know a parent might give you very expensive gifts. They may try and give you lots of financial, material stuff because they're unable to have the emotional conversations with you about all the stuff that you needed as a child.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so that can be an over compensation with the money mindset, and then you adopt that and then you integrate into your business and then, if you're not out here in a state of flow with money, guess what. There's not going to be consistent sales in your business. And then, if you're not out here in a state of flow with money, guess what. There's not going to be consistent sales in your business. Or you may end up working the same job for eight years, like that's exactly what I did. So you know, your money mindset is absolutely key.

Speaker 1:

I'm not an expert on this. I'm, you know I'm unlearning and I'm healing my own money story, so I wouldn't recommend coming to me for something like this, but it's really, really important to be aware of it. And I think, like the last thing I'm going to talk about is the fear of being visible. Okay, so, to be an entrepreneur, you have to be seen, you have to put yourself out there. But if that's conflicting with you feeling unsafe to be seen, feeling judged by others or having like fear of shame and criticism, guess what you're not going to do that. You're going to avoid public speaking. You're going to. You're going to avoid publicity. You're going to be reluctant to talk about your services. You're going to be hesitating on your brand. You're going to be hesitating on any decision that you make because you're going to be like it's not safe for me to be seen. You may not even post consistently on instagram if you're in a, if you're in your job. You may not speak up in the boardroom when you know how to do things better. You may not speak about things that are so important for you because you keep it to yourself, because you're worried about being shamed or being wrong or being or just being betrayed or all of this stuff that we've talked about right?

Speaker 1:

So again, reason that caused this it could be bullying or rejection. Like I said earlier, your parent could be your first bully. There could be high expectations or parental criticism. There could be emotional neglect or invalidation. You know we're linking back into that self-worth piece that we started with at the beginning of the episode and the fear of rejection as well, like what happens if my business doesn't work, what happens if I step into the spotlight and then people start to make fun of me? Again, you may have the trauma or abuse. So you may be having hypervigilance. You may be stuck in your fight, flight, fall and freeze response, where this means that you are hypervigilant, you are always on guard for potential threats and being visible in your business feels dangerous because it draws attention to you and, yeah, you may associate visibility with vulnerability and then that makes you vulnerable when you're seen and this can be really hard to protect yourself if that is what's happening for you. Again, we're talking about trust issues. Again we're talking about overprotective parenting again, a lack of independence, so always feeling like somebody needs to be there for you to like, shield you, um, and you may be feeling like you're unprepared, like what happens with the scrutiny that comes with being visible.

Speaker 1:

What happens to the trolls in the comments, what happens to the person who doesn't agree with you in your decision that you say in the boardroom or in a meeting or in a or in a project that you're leading, okay, okay, there will be a fear of making waves because you don't want to rock the boat, right? You want to people, please, you want to keep everything nice and calm. You may be fearful of being shamed or embarrassed, like literally nobody wants public humiliation, and this can lead to a deep-seated fear of visibility. So if you did something when you were younger that caused embarrassment or public humiliation, I said about being in school and reading something out loud and being made fun of because you said a word wrong. Guess what that's? Public humiliation.

Speaker 1:

Okay, and that can really manifest into avoiding public speaking, networking events or, you know, promotional activities for your business or for whatever you're doing. These could be really big blocks in your business or in your job. Okay, um, again, which you know, you have to always like factor in cultural and family beliefs about modesty and humility as well, especially if, like you, come from a culture where being a woman hasn't always been easy. I believe that being a woman in any culture has never been easy, but some, I feel like, are harder than others. Okay, you may have internalized shame. Okay, you may feel unworthy of success. You may have, you know, and this could be because of, you know, family dynamics, societal pressures, traumatic experience but if you're growing up feeling unworthy of success and recognition, you're not going to be going to be visible in your business, you're going to really want to sit back and you're going to feel like things are not good enough.

Speaker 1:

Okay, and again we come back to the imposter syndrome which we talked about in the in the part one. Um, but, yeah, so when we have deep seated fears about being seen, recognized, stepping into the spotlight in our business, it absolutely cock blocks us and it just gives us this route, that you know that we aren't good enough, that we don't deserve to be seen. But let me tell you something, now that you have a gift. You have a gift. You're here on this life for a gift. Okay, you came here because you're here to deliver something that is so fucking magical that nobody else can do, and what I want to say to you is that don't deny yourself. You're denying your magic by hiding, and you can absolutely heal from your inner child. You can heal from these experiences and you can really build a business that is thriving and successful and beautiful, because you're showing up as your most authentic self.

Speaker 1:

Now we have talked about a lot of how different things can show up in your business, and you might be thinking to me, kirsteen, my business is a fucking hot mess right now and I don't know how to get through this and I don't know how to unblock. And you've tried all the business strategies. You've tried everything. You've tried all the different workshops, the courses, the coaches that told you the things that you want to hear, but really what's happening is your nervous system isn't regulated, your inner child is having a tantrum and you don't know how to fucking navigate it. That's ultimately what is really happening at the core of it, and when you start to heal your inner child, it doesn't only heal your business, it heals every aspect of you, it heals your relationship, and often when we go back and we heal our inner child stuff, it's literally like pulling everything out of that really messy drawer and organizing it and putting it back and not looking at it again.

Speaker 1:

Okay, because our brain is a very clever thing and when we're triggered and when our subconscious mind is like hey, I've been in a similar experience like this before, I'm going to repeat the same behavior, I'm going to seek out the familiar. This is what we do. So this is why we have to change that. This is why we have to reprogram our brain, why we have to reprogram our brain, why we have to reprogram our beliefs, and this is what I do with my one-to-one clients. I do have something that is going to be brand new about business owners and inner child healing coming up in the autumn as a group.

Speaker 1:

But if you're like, I really want to change my life, I want to heal my inner child, I really want to expand in my business, I want to be happier. I want to have clients that I work with that are aligned. I want to set boundaries in a way that make me feel good and make me feel safe. I just want to feel safe in myself and my business. If you're craving these things, then what I recommend is getting in touch. Let's work one-to-one together and let's make this fucking happen, because this is where you take your business to like the next level, where you expand, where you regulate your nervous system to a point where you can hold these trolls in the comments, where you can make those big business decisions, where you can say to the people at work this is my opinion and I don't give a fuck if you don't agree or not. This is my opinion and I know my shit. So if that is, you get in touch. Let's work one-to-one together.

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There are some more episodes linked below about inner child healing. If you're interested and if you have any questions whatsoever, let me know, and let me know if anything in this episode resonated with you, and I'm going to leave it there for now. I feel like I've just done a huge dump of information. Take time to process it. Re-listen to part one and part two again. It's a lot to take in. Yeah, I'm just sending you so much freaking love because this is a really difficult area to talk about and, yeah, if you need anything from me, just message me and I'm sending you loads and loads of love.